Hi Ter
i am in the UK so I guess we won’t be meeting up any time soon.
l used to live in Bangkok for many years, so lady boys are part of everyday life, as are any number of bars and clubs where you can get any type of sex you want.
my husband was into porn starring young Asian girls. I found this disgusting for several reasons. First, he had young Thai girls working for him. Little did they know what he was looking at while they out of the office. Second, he openly disapproved of the sex industry and the men who hooked up with these girls. Three. He said he never found Asian girls attractive.
He is a hypocrite and a liar. Twenty years this went on. There may be worse things I have yet to ask. Group sex. Rape. Who knows. As you say, imagining is bad but part of me is scared to find out more in case of more shocking revelations, as in your case.
are you going to stay with him?
I’m 63..... where do we go at this stage in our lives?
my husband does not look at porn anymore since a brain virus he had last summer. He now brushes his habit off as being of no importance, just a phase he was going through which arose through curiosity and boredom. He can’t seem to see that it ruined our sex lives and, had he been caught, could have lost him his job.
worst of all is that everything is blamed on me because 35 years ago I had an affair. As far as he can see, I am to blame.
counselling isn’t working as he just bangs on for a whole hour about his hurt over my ancient affair.
I’m really starting to hate him as it all feels so hopeless. He won’t forgive me.
lets keep talking.
take care P xx