Hi, this is where I dread to be. I’m 3 month into finding out about husbands double life. The betrayal hurts so much but would be far worse if in years to come all that effort put in is thrown back in my face. I’m so sorry he’s done this again to you. Please find strength in knowing it’s absolutely him that’s got a problem. The things I’ve learnt is that it’s not a marital issue or anything to do with me! Hubby cheated on me throughout or relationship so it didn’t matter if we were great, going through normal bumps/dips, pregnancy etc. It did not matter to him and I can guarantee you that this is all him. Neither of us deserve this. Please look after yourself, become focused on you because you matter! Doesn’t matter if they’re with the sexiest, amazing, richest woman on the planet they’ll still have an urge to get with a tramp. Makes no sense at all but look at his family history. Was his father/father figure a cheater or treated his mother poorly? Is there fear of abandonment and he’s self sabotaging your relationship? No doubt he feels bad about himself, usually it tends to be these clowns can’t cope with normal relationships or intimacy are selfish beyond belief etc. You did the right thing telling people, don’t keep his dirty secret or allow him to live a double life. It’s incredibly hard to tell people and I know from experience but hold your head high, it’s not your shame to carry!!
