Please Help Me

[Aaron_31]

My behavior has gotten so out of control the mother of my child can barely look at me after I betrayed her again and hurt her deeply.
My actions keep hurting my best friend and I've already become single because of my behavior.

I'm so lonely and scared, if I didn't have a daughter I am worried I'd hurt myself.

I really can't live like this, the damage I am causing is too much and I can't keep hurting her

Where can I get help ?

[workinprogress]

Well done, first of all, on recognising that you may have a problem. From my own personal experience, I remember that things had to get really low before I did, so hopefully you've reached your personal "rock bottom" and you're ready to try to get some control of the situation. Lots of self-help resources available, like Paula's site and like the your brain on porn website, which helps explain a lot of the science. Paula's "understanding and Treating Sex Addicition" book is a really useful read and there are loads of others out there to help you understand your issue and then get a grip of it. It may be a sensible first step to try to understand your situation before you try to change anything.

If you're of a spiritual nature, a 12-step group might eventually be helpful, like Sex Addicts Anon, or Sexaholics Anon. They didn't work for me but they may for you. I used Group Therapy and one-to-one counselling with differing degrees of success. But maybe just start with trying to get an understanding of your own circumstances, and your own personal addiction cycle first?

Good luck to you, my friend. You're not alone. There are so many of us who have been similarly messed-up, and we're all at different phases in our own, personal, journeys to recovery. It's tough. But you can get there if it matters enough to you.