Tabs Posted April 26, 2021 Report Share Posted April 26, 2021 Kaykay, have a look at my story, it’s on the forum here. It’s the very worst story, as he has ended up in prison through his addiction. I hope recommendations are allowed on this site, but in the absence of therapy etc I recommend this book to help find yourself and your inner strength, and for therapist, have a look in line but only look for therapists trained in sex addiction! xx Sandy Brown Porn Addict’s Wife: Surviving Betrayal and Taking Back Your Life Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firefly Posted April 26, 2021 Report Share Posted April 26, 2021 36 minutes ago, Kaykay said: Hi tabs Yes I remember reading your story. It was a, difficult one to read. Do you believe that the addiction took your husband too far down the rabbit hole where he started offending? Or that it was a case of him getting into that addict zone where they just seek and don't think? This is a fear of mine. Where does it end, how far has it gone, is he actually being honest this time. Who knows. So many questions, not many answers xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tabs Posted April 26, 2021 Author Report Share Posted April 26, 2021 I think, from what he said, it was addict zone. Not thinking, just going for the dopamine hit. It coincided with some tough stuff going on with his work, and added to difficulties with his family, he self soothed instead of addressing the problems. It has come as a shock to him too! There are so many men caught up in on line sex crimes now, it’s so easy to access illegal material and engage in illegal chats. They think it’s not real life, and can be hidden away....but no! The reward part of the brain takes over from the part of the brain that risk assesses, like all addicts I guess. Xx 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chrissy Posted May 1, 2021 Report Share Posted May 1, 2021 Hi Tabs, This could so easily have been my ex husband and who knows this could still be a possibility. For his addiction was the acting out in a public place..... The only episode that I know of was when he confessed that he'd 'paid off' some people who saw him, so as not to go to the police! As you say Tabs it's the dopamine high and the miniscule line with the ends justifying the means. There is no risk assessment and that is the crucial lack of brain synapse. Chrissy x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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